All those that are super young, typically lack perspective, which traditionally comes with age, experience, and wisdom so obtained. To live a good life is to understand that there are stages to life, of which one of those stages is the firm acknowledgment that what is physical, must so eventually face its demise. This is known to each of us from the beginning, but often becomes of more pertinence as our body, or our mind, begins to betray us – though, for those that are more astute, such recognition comes much earlier.
So then, the family that we grew up with, the friends that we make and have made, are eventually going to leave us, or we will leave them. Perhaps when these events occur, all will be well, because everything that we wanted to say, do, and act upon, has been accomplished – but, in truth, those that we are especially close to, are the very same people that we desire to have forever with us, so as to celebrate our mutual accomplishments, to talk to, to gaze upon, and to just enjoy each other’s company, and when that is gone, it is seemingly gone, forever.
it has to be noted, that when we go to our favorite venue, or sit in our favorite chair, or visit the home that we grew up in, and the person that we use to enjoy spending our time with, is no longer there to join us, we can become rather dismayed that all is not how it once was. So too, though time is absolutely relentless, and continues to tick away, day by day, there is a tendency for many of us, to picture those that are the dearly departed, as actually being forever locked into a certain time and place, when we most appreciated one another’s company, and we yearn for that time to be back in the present.
We want those that we really love to be with us, forever, because they are the ones that have helped to make our lives, better and more meaningful. We desire to have them with us, so that we can continue to have those comfortable conversations, as well as to reminisce about bygone days. We desire to do then the same sorts of things that we use to do with them, that thus brought us the greatest joy, again and again, because it has become for us, a touchstone, that we never tire of.
Sure, life moves on, and we have our other friends, family, and relationships that bring us satisfaction. But what cannot be replaced is those that represented to us, the security that all will be well, as well as providing to us, unconditional love and acceptance. For those then that have departed us, we yearn for those moments when we were together, joyful, happy, and satisfied. Though we cannot get those moments back, we can show our respect and love to those that we cared so much for, but have left this world, by making sure to be good to one another, and by remembering them in that special way, in which, they are always with us.