While it has to be said that many a person doesn’t really care for criticism of their self, whether constructive or not, it has to be admitted that criticism is going to pretty much come our way, at least from time-to-time and those that are most secure in their person, are going to be able to handle criticism a heck of a lot of better than those that are insecure, and somehow are of the belief that anything said about them which is negative is considered to be a form of disloyalty, and even to be a betrayal of their person.
Each of us does need criticism, at least occasionally, but such criticism is best issued when it comes from someone who really knows us and respects us, so done in a way in which the point of such criticism is to provide us a “wake-up” call, which serves to help us to get back on track to where we ought to be. There are, though, many forms of criticism, and the very worst are those remarks that are purposely hurtful and deliberately made, which serve no good purpose and do not do anybody any favors. On the other hand, those who keep their mouths shut, because they don’t want to say that which is critical, when bad actions warrant such criticism being said, aren’t standing up when they should stand up.
How secure a given person is really comes down to their satisfaction or dissatisfaction with their life as it is. Those who are satisfied are always going to be in a better position and often are more willing to hear criticism, because they are secure in their persona. On the other hand, those that are dissatisfied with who and what they are at present, aren’t the type that will take criticism well, because they are already down on their selves, which is why those that are making critical remarks, need to keep in mind, as to the point of what they are saying, before they say it, because it isn’t going to be helpful, then it won’t be of help.
Finally, there is that particular category of people who have the highest opinion of themselves, which typically isn’t warranted, and simply won’t suffer to be criticized by anyone, and when criticized, will strike back with tremendous venom because they see those expressing that criticism as those who are not just disloyal, but have also betrayed them, because they are not true believers. This unreasonable attitude typically can’t be overcome, and when dealing with someone with a mindset like that, the best thing to do is to simply walk away because this isn’t going to get any better, which is why when we are dealing with those who strike out at us with unrestrained rage whenever we say something that they take offense to, we need to comprehend that behind all their bluster, is probably a very insecure person who has lost their way, and doesn’t care to find it.