There are those who live in the past, and wish that they could change the past, or simply dwell upon the past, and then there are those who have advanced beyond such thoughts, and recognized the past as being past. For all those who went to school and still occasionally think about this or that schoolmate from a true friend perspective, it has to be said that Facebook or Google search are legitimate places to search for these former acquaintances or friends in order to reconnect. However, when that search really isn’t about renewing an old friendship but is more along the lines of desiring to connect with someone for secretive extracurricular activities, and the person so searching or the person being searched for, already has an established relationship with someone else, this is surely wrong, and to the degree that Facebook enables this to occur, quite unfortunate.
The thing about Facebook is that many a person with an account, has “friends” that first of all aren’t really friends, and further to the point aren’t really friends of friends, either; but Facebook permits just about anyone to search for just about anyone through a “friend request” or suggests to the user somebody who may or may not be a legitimate friend for them, based on some commonality, perceived or otherwise. While this might be considered to be a great feature, because it permits people to reconnect, or to perhaps actually become friends, or provides a person with the semblance of a friend; it also has its inherent dangers, of which, the biggest danger is the one in which, those that want to cheat, and figured in their mind that their chances are better with someone that they at least used to know through school, or work, now have a clear pathway to do so. In other words, Facebook enables people who would not ever get together to get together, and thereby to upset established personal relationships -- though truth be told, in fairness, it could be said that Facebook also helps to connect people who could be friends to be platonic friends.
The problem with the Facebook app is that most relationships are going to have their ups and downs, of which, when somebody is down for whatever reason, they might get tempted to do or try things. We find that for baby boomers, once the kids are out of the house, and they are pretty much retired, it could be that the basic feeling for some of those people is that their life has become so routine and thereby predictable, that they are looking for a spark or something to rekindle their emotions, and of which, Facebook essentially permits people that have an itch to scratch that itch.
So too, there are those people that begin something with some seemingly harmless flirtation, only to find that it becomes something far beyond such flirtation, and to the degree this happens, represents the betrayal of one’s relationship with one’s significant other, which can easily become the prevailing reason for the fall of a relationship that has stood the test of time, basically because Facebook has created a viable pathway that can be utilized quite adeptly to do this very thing, wittingly or not.