There are a lot of people that get hurt in one way or another by someone else or some institution, whether physically, emotionally, or through myriad other means of abuse. Whether or not someone deserves to be hurt, is situation specific; but in general, hurting another person, whether emotionally or physically, is something that should be sparingly used against another person, and only to the degree that it is necessary; because to go further than that is a form of cruelty, that typically breeds resentment, revenge, and retribution, in one form or another.
Each one of us, carries some degree of hurt or disappointment within our psyche, of which, some of these hurting people, can never successfully shake themselves free of that shame and hurt; whereas, others, who are, for instance, gifted at compartmentalizing such, or negating such, through various activities and via good control of their mind and their emotions, are able to keep that which disappoints them or hurts them, at bay. Regrettably, there are those people that when hurt, that almost without thinking, strike back, instantly; as compared to those others, that though hurt, will shake it off and put it aside, and thereby go back to their tasks at hand; of which, at some latter point, they may or may not address that hurt that they have felt.
As in most things in life, it is always easier to be destructive as compared to being constructive; for it is much easier to knock something or somebody down, as compared to building something or somebody up. So too, the problem with hurting another, is that seldom does the person doing that hurting, actually care to think through what the consequence of that hurtful action will mean to the other person. That is to say, hurtful actions, do not simply end, but rather they have a strong tendency to create a downhill cascading effect; in which, the person so hurt, will often seek out somebody or something vulnerable to hurt in return, in order to regain for themselves, some degree of sovereignty, as well as of self-respect.
This thus signifies that in most actions, that there is going to be some sort of corresponding reaction; and when the initial action so taken is hurtful, we so find, that people that have been hurt, are often going to end up hurting somebody else, and then that somebody is going to hurt somebody else, and so on and so forth. So too, most people while growing up and maturing, typically learn things of significance from those that that are their elders, or those that are their mentors, or from people of respect; and when those very people do hurtful things, then the lesson so learned logically is that it’s okay to hurt somebody else, as opposed to trying to reason things out, or having a discussion or a conversation, or simply to let something that could be let go, let go.
This world is full of hurting people, of which, we can add to that hurt by unnecessarily hurting others, as well, or we can help to ameliorate that hurt, by taking into consideration that none of us are perfect, that all of us have erred, and that to be the bigger person, sometimes does necessitate walking away or ignoring those things that don’t really necessitate a negative response to; for rather, it’s better to help a person that is hurting, than to add to or to create more woes, instead.