Stop whining and start doing / by kevin murray

It's fairly easy to complain about this or to complain about that, of which some of these complaints, most definitely have justification.  But what of it; for if simply complaining about something would resolve those very issues, than complaining would appear to be a very valid thing to do for just about anything that bothers us.  However, for the most part, complaining doesn't resolve much of anything, though, in fairness, bringing issues to light has its place, and has its time.  That said, unless such complaining is brought to the fore, in order to deal with the root of the issue in some sort of comprehensive and mature method, the mere act of complaining just isn’t going to typically resolve what is bothering or ailing a particular person.

 

So then, for those that perhaps complain too much, without ever seeming to get a resolution to what bothers them, perhaps it is time to look at another conceivable way to resolve the issue, which doesn't depend upon others, listening to us, and then obeying us, but rather is completely in our own control.  For instance, there is an awful lot to say about setting a good example for others to emulate, so that, the very act of doing the things that you wish were being done for you, by doing them for another, may by your actions, actually, sooner or later, get what you really want, in return.

 

That is to say, people learn from the actions and deeds from those that they most respect; in which, their hope is that by following suit in their own life, they too might have the type of respect and success of those that they emulate.  This thus means that we lead by example, and by that example, people that respect us or look up to us, are going to, more times than not, want to do something along the same lines, because they too want that same sort of respect. 

 

It thus follows, that the things that we want most to be done for us, are easier to achieve, if we first do those very things for other people, for if it is good enough for us to do for them, then it surely must be something worth them doing for us, as well.  Of course, no doubt, some people believe strongly that there are always going to be those that prefer to just receive the benefits of our good deeds and good actions, without any reciprocal action on their own part.  While that may well be true, it is also true to say that if we aren't willing to do the very things that we are expecting others to do for us, than perhaps what we desire and wish for is not nearly as reasonable and sound as we first surmised.

 

The bottom line is that unless whining and complaining is somehow producing the desired results from such an action; that it therefore behooves each one of us, to simply let that go, and prove by our own good actions and by our own good deeds, that behaving and doing things for others in the way that we think that they should be done, without our own complaining or whining about such, is going to ultimately produce a better and more productive result.