In a very simple way, those that are in authority, whether they be the police, parents, school administrators, your boss, and so forth, ideally like for those that they engage with, to obey their orders without backtalk or questioning of them, but the fact of the matter is, unless your job literally is one of being a order taker such as a typically utilized soldier, people are not things, they are instead, independent sentient beings that are entitled to push back as well as to question actions that they are "required" to do, when they are ordered about, especially when the person doing such ordering isn't respected, isn't perceived as being right, and isn't their parental authority that at least provides them with shelter, love, and sustenance.
Too often we let politeness or getting along with others to overrule our sensibilities about what exactly we are being told to do, whereas, in fairness, we should have the ability and utilize the ability to question authority, to question its legitimacy, to question everything about it, not to necessarily be disruptive, or argumentative, or disobedient, but to understand the why of what they are trying to achieve at our expense or at our compliance. After all, there are plenty of people in times of war, or of civil strife, that obey authoritarian commands or orders without taking into consideration exactly what they are doing, the ramifications and effects of such, and thereby their contribution to the very thing that they in reality may not morally or ethically respect or believe in.
It isn't so much that one needs to make a stand all of the time, about everything, it is more that those that yell, push us about, and scream at us to do this or do that, should have to justify the reasoning behind such orders, and should be able to calmly do so, as the volume of one's voice, the anger in one's persona, and the implied threat of physical violence, are not typically legitimate ways to achieve things of practical worth from those they are demanding such from.
The art of civil disobedience should be deliberately and carefully thought out, and the reasoning behind such, is to impress upon those that have authority that they too must be held accountable for their actions, and cannot and should not be permitted to hide behind arbitrary law, or arbitrary orders, but must be able to and should be held accountable for what they are ordering us to do, just as they try to hold those civil dissenters accountable for their reluctance to do so. Those that are being ordered about, have a moral and ethical obligation to fight back, often not physically, but through their strong stand that they will not be moved until the legitimacy of what is being asked of them has been thoroughly vetted and thereby justified, and if not, to resist such civil authority.
We don't really learn much of anything through obedience, because simply assenting to what is asked of us, is basically going with the flow of the river, which, while having its place and time in life is not what a living being is meant to do always, for the flotsam of life goes with the flow, whereas, as living cognizant beings, we are meant to swim against the flow, to assert ourselves, especially when those that are in authority are wrong; it thereby becomes our highest duty to protest and to instruct them of their error as well as to vividly remind them that legitimate authority always comes from a legitimate source, to wit, this source is by definition, fair, equitable, impartial, and immutable.