Should we really want to know another person’s thoughts? / by kevin murray

We communicate with one another through the words we speak or write, as well as our body language.  Yet, for many a person, this doesn’t seem like quite enough, because there are those certain times when the words that we want to express or the thoughts that we want to impart to the other, somehow aren’t seemingly available to us so that we aren’t able to really get across to the other, what we desire to express, which can be rather disheartening.  Additionally, there are those people who are so involved in their own lives that we can’t seem to figure out what they are really up to, because they don’t expend a lot of time or energy engaging with others.  This would presuppose that to know the thoughts of another, even from a long distance, might be beneficial, so that in those cases in which somebody truly wants to be left alone, we could provide them with that space; whereas, in those times in which they are pretending that they desire to be left alone, we could comfort them.

 The crux of the problem, though, with knowing another person’s thoughts is that soon enough, we would get overwhelmed by receiving all sorts of information from the other, desired and undesired, that would essentially be unfiltered, and because it is received “raw” we might well absorb thoughts from the other that would make us to feel uncomfortable, or get us mad, or make us upset, because by virtue of being able to know another person’s thoughts we are in a place, which no person has traveled before, and being there, while having to also deal with our own ego and issues, could create all sorts of havoc, because even the most civil of people, are susceptible to having thoughts which might seriously offend or surprise us.  That’s not to say people’s thoughts are necessarily typically a contradiction of their person, but rather it has a lot more to do with our assuming this or that about the other, without taking in all the complexities and nuances of human behavior, which, in and of itself, would probably be overwhelming.

 As it is, our thoughts are private, for the very good reason that we are entitled to have that privacy for it is part of our sovereignty, and for someone else to be able to know our thoughts, would be a serious violation of our privacy, because thoughts not expressed in words or deeds, should be privy to our own self, and to no longer have that in our sole control could be devastating to our character, as well as to our liberty, for to know another person’s thoughts, permits the entity so knowing to judge us, not solely based upon our actions, but also based upon our thoughts, and in that knowing provide them the opportunity to have the impetus to try to control us, to manipulate us, or to punish us, thereby making our life to literally be a living hell, in which, there would never be an escape available to us, whatsoever.