There are those people who, when important things clearly don’t go their way or are extremely frustrated about some vital interaction or notable event that has gone horribly wrong, makes them thereby to get very, very angry, of which, that anger is expressed so vociferously, that it frightens and disturbs other people. So then, whenever we see someone who is very angry, it is important not to directly confront that anger so being expressed, because it could end up being redirected at us, because they are so upset, they don’t really care who they take their anger out on.
The thing, though, about anger, is that no matter how angry a person is, the amount of energy being utilized to express that anger, has a way of taking a toll upon a person’s body and their mind, so that, sooner or later, they will simply run out of fuel and while this eventual calmness or resignation is almost always not going to resolve what brought on this anger, it will at least remove the madness for a while, and perhaps give a chance for some necessary perspective to come into play.
The reason why some people get so very angry, is that their anger typically represents their frustration about something of importance that didn’t go right, at all, but in fact, went terribly wrong, and in their frustration they are prone to taking it out on just about anybody that gets in their way, which is why the most appropriate way to deal with someone who is having a temper tantrum, is not so much to try to calm the person down, though that could help, but importantly, not to ever add “fuel to the fire,” which will only serve to keep that anger being expressed for an even longer period of time.
That is to say, to a very large extent, angry people need an audience to express that anger to, and when that audience does not exist, or no longer exists, then their anger begins to dissipate rather quickly, because there isn’t anything happening to make it last longer. Indeed, people publicly express their anger because they want a reaction from the public, and in the absence of that reaction, they will only have themselves to kick around, which isn’t what the purpose of their anger represents.
So too, the thing about anger is that it exposes the very worst of a person, of which, when things calm down, most people will be rather embarrassed about their behavior, but in that moment, they felt their need to express that rage, which is why they did it. We can also take solace in knowing that no matter how angry a person is in the moment, the energy to sustain that anger is not going to last, because that rage takes a lot out of a person, of which, a lot of those people expressing that madness, begin to realize that further expressions of anger aren’t going to resolve anything, so they simply just basically let it go.