It could be said, that far too many people, are overly sensitive, about how they are individually treated, and not so sensitive, about how they so mistreat others, along also with the corresponding upshot of that aftermath. While there are plenty of people that want to believe that they never do a single thing wrong, the truth of the matter is that wittingly or not, each of us, has, at a minimum, those occasional moments of indiscretion, of words spoken or actions taken, that they in hindsight, wish they had not done. While it is true, that we cannot take back words or actions, what we can do, however, is to make it our point to try to ameliorate our mistakes by first admitting to them, and then by trying to correct what can be so corrected, by our subsequent words and actions.
Instead, we do so find, that people are often not so concerned about their own errors, but are rather more fixated about the other person’s wrongs, slights, and errors so directed towards them. In fact, many a person, can dwell upon a particular undesirable event that occurred to them, over and over again, for not just days or weeks, but months, and even years. Yet, during all this time, when we resent the other, even hate the other, how little of that time is ever spent engaging with the other, about what so troubles us, but instead we are content to repeat inside our mind, what bothers us about them, all being played and replayed back in our mind on some sort of endless loop. In truth, we have to admit, that it could be that what is so tragic and wrong that happened to us, may not even be something that the other even ponders upon, though, no doubt, there are those times, when people most definitely know that they have wronged the other, but won’t ever “man up” and thus do anything constructive about it.
The thing is though, whether or not, a particular wrong is corrected to our satisfaction, isn’t nearly as important as the understanding that there may well be those imprudent actions that we have taken, without really being consciously aware of the distinct possibility, that we have hurt the other; yet, to the other persons’ credit, they have forgiven us for it, because they know that things are said as well as done that occasionally do go astray, but they also know us to be good at heart, so they refuse to dwell upon it, and thus let it go. That is indeed, the attitude that we need ourselves to take, far more often, because it may well be that while we are fixated on all the wrongs so apparently done to us, we have not taken into fair consideration, that we have wronged the other, many times, as well. It is therefore important for each of us, to take to heart, that when we are so “big” as to forgive the other, that we need to take into fair account that they also have been “big” in forgiving us, as well.