Why we like to give and why it feels right / by kevin murray

One might think that the volunteering for a cause, without compensation, would be in ever shorter supply in this fast-paced world; but that isn't really true at all.  There are plenty of people that really do enjoy volunteering, and really do take pleasure in the helping of other people, irrespective of whether or not they receive anything that one would traditionally consider to be compensation for doing so.  

The reason why so many people want to give, has an awful lot to do, with the fact that first of all, we are meant to be connected, human being to human being, for we are social creatures, along with us also intuitively recognizing the important value of human connections that are real, meaningful, and sincere.  Each one of us wants to be valued, and one way to demonstrate that we value someone else, is to do something for them, without expecting anything in return.  For in reality to do something that is bigger than one's own personal domain, makes us feel like we're part of something bigger than us, and to feel that, brings the type of satisfaction that money cannot buy.

Each one of us has a deep desire to be needed, and especially to be needed by those that are our peers, for it is in that needing and thereby the filling of that need, that we feel that we are contributing to the betterment of humankind, which thereby allows us to feel that we are doing our good part to make a positive contribution for others – as compared to simply sitting back and desiring to be strictly catered to by them, as if we were born to that sort of entitlement.

We may want to be a lot of things, in our professional life and in our personal life, but when it is all said and done, ultimately, we want to be doing what so needs to be done to be living a purposeful life, or else we will feel some degree of dissatisfaction and disappointment as well as a lack of fulfillment if we so fail to do so; especially when we know for a certainty we could have and should have done so.  So too, the troubles and worries that we may so have in our own lives, make us better able to be put those things into perspective when we go on to helping others, for in the seeing and the knowing of how much others suffer through myriad things, makes us re-evaluate whether our lives our thus half full or half empty.

All of us want to feel wanted, yet, many of us may find ourselves not feeling in our lives, from some of the most important people that we know, that we are so wanted.  Our response to that could be manifold, but one of the best responses, so of, is to find something outside of ourselves, that permits us to lend a helping hand to someone in need, that will through the success of such, build our self-esteem up and make us feel that we are indeed doing our part to help make this world a better place for our being part of it.