Everybody wants to be understood, and they especially want to be understood as if you really know them, since that will allow the other person to empathize with them appreciably better, and thereby create a more meaningful bond between one another. However, not too surprisingly, most people, as much as they say differently, concentrate way too much about specifically themselves, as opposed to actually listening and interacting with others as well as they could. This would signify that there is much that each of us can do to be more actively involved with others, by improving our listening and interactions skills when relating with others.
The very first thing to improve communication with others, is to actually listen as well as to make eye contact, if possible, upon the person that is speaking, giving your full attention, as opposed to half listening, or half thinking about what you want to say in return, or just essentially tuning things out, because you just aren't that interested in what they have to say. The very fact that someone is speaking to you, basically indicates that they have something to say, of which, no doubt, there will be times when some of it is repetitive, or some of it is mindless, or some of it is stupid, but the more that you really listen to it now, perhaps then in the future there will be in return less repetitiveness, less mindlessnessand less stupidity, because you are able to respond to them in a meaningful manner that indicates that you have comprehended what they are saying.
A true dialog necessitates that each party, actually listens, cogitates, and responds to the other, as opposed to simply taking turns talking at one another. In addition to that, good dialog, allows each party to actually learn more about the other, so that listening and thereby having a conversation, is actually a valued skill, one, that is very important, for we can learn from and understand others in many and various ways, of which one very good one, is through verbal and body language communication, which gives each of us a better opportunity to become more knowledgeable about the other, and even about ourselves.
Humans have an innate desire to know one another for that is how friendships develop, as well as how good families grow and bond together, because not only does that make us feel more comfortable with each other, but by knowing one another better, we are better able to respond to each other in our more critical and intimate times of need. We should develop a healthy curiosity about one another, because that helps to enable us to stay actively engaged.
If you aren't doing a good job in understanding others, that like just about anything else, can be changed, by taking the very first step which is endeavoring to improve your listening and interaction skills, and, by trying and trying again and again. You should want to make this effort for the very same reason that you desire others to do so, which is that you really do want other people to understand you, and the first step in having that occur, is developing the skill-set within yourself, so that you know the mindfulness needed in order to succeed at such.
People get frustrated for a lot of reasons, and frustrated people are not as happy or productive as they could be, yet those that know themselves well, that are thoughtful, considerate, and attentively listen, help provide that impetus that allows others to a get a fresh perspective and help to renew their resolve to do and to be better.