There are times when perhaps it isn't so good that we are able to communicate to each other via talking, writing, texting, and so forth, simply because, there are times when one person wants to get into an argument with us. It is one thing to have a discussion, a conversation, a formal give and take, to which each side gets an opportunity to talk, and each side gets an opportunity to think, listen, and react, all done in such a manner, that neither side gets emotionally overwrought. However, it is an entirely different thing when one side, or both sides, unleash upon the other, with absolute venom and contempt, expecting somehow, that by doing so, something constructive will come out of it.
As always, the change that we want or demand in others actually starts within our self. Other people are virtually never puppets that we can control with the strings of the puppeteer, but rather are their own individuals, made up of all sorts of different factors and inputs, to which, as much as we might think that we know everything about them, we really do not. However, on the other hand, we do know ourselves, or should, which means that by working on ourselves to be the best person that we can be will make most everything else better. This means, that we should try to treat others with the same dignity, respect, concern, understanding, and caring that we would like others to treat us. For instance, most everyone makes some sort of mistake every single day, but seldom do we vilify ourselves unmercifully for having done so, mainly because it really isn't necessary to do that, because we are already in recognition that we have made the mistake and have usually taken measures to correct it. This signifies that when our partner makes an error in judgment, that reading them the riot act is seldom the thing that will be beneficial for both or either party, although it very well might lead to a stinging and ugly argument.
For many people, life is full of frustrations, to which, some are in our control and some are not. The bottom line is that other people often don't think like we do, don't behave like we do, and do things differently than how we do it. This doesn't necessarily make them wrong, or bad, or mistaken, or foolish, although it is conceivable that it does, what it does mean is that they are different than we are, and we should respect that.
The unfortunate aspect of arguments is frequently the other side does not want to hear you, but instead wants to validate themselves against you, often very assertively. That is to say, the impression that they want to make in their argument against you is typically that they are so superior and wise, whereas you are so stupid and clueless. But if this is so true, why has it taken them so long to discover this, as this seems to invalidate their very premise of the argument.
Those that are emotionally overwrought and argumentative have issues, to which, perhaps some of those issues actually have to do with you, or with each other, but many times it has to do with something entirely else. Remember this, does it make sense to argue with a madman even if they have a point or two? It is far more sensible to diffuse the situation by not getting caught up into it, as not every accusation or complaint need be met with an answer; their fiery venom will burn out soon enough, keep calm at the center, and recognize that this too will pass.